¿como empezamos?

Where do we begin?

Here are some brief FAQs and clarifications.

Are you licensed?

Because this is an international endeavor, the coaching and educating work I propose to do with you will not be regulated by a professional license. I cannot treat “pathology” or provide “treatment.” I am offering my years of knowledge and experience to help orient you in your own pursuits. My opinions carry no more weight than any other lay person.

Please, fix my child! 

I do not “fix” children. I am happy to help families unite around some common goals. I do not conduct assessments or help with accommodations. Contact licensed professionals who specialize in that.

Do you see couples?

My conversations are not limited to individuals. I am happy to bring light and levity to relationships of any kind. This work is not therapy or counseling.

Do you offer group therapy?

I facilitate Council of Peers groups, whether for janitors or for individuals in high profile leadership positions who require absolute discretion but want the benefits of shared wisdom, experience, comradery, and accountability. My work is not therapy or counseling. Learn more here. 

What technology do you use?

I can meet via phone, secure Zoom, Google, WhatsApp. I message via email, text, or WhatsApp. I am open to new technologies as well. 

How long are conversations?

Standard is 45-50 minutes for individuals, closer to an hour for a peer group. In reality conversations can run anywhere between 10 minutes and 2 hours, depending on the circumstances of a particular day, or if meeting in person. I am trying to follow a more human practice than has become typical. 

Do you travel?

In some circumstances we can arrange an intensive 2-day experience somewhere in the world.

Financial Terms that You Decide


EARTH • AIR • FIRE • WATER

What are your financial terms?

I prefer a monthly arrangement rather than fee-per-use. Some months you may need more conversations, other times fewer.

I do not “charge” but offer guidelines below to suggest ways of being honorable if you find value in our dialogs. I am also quite happy for you to keep payments for my services small and offer generous financial support for my ambitious humanitarian projects at incapaz.org. Suggested compensation for Peer Groups are much lower than individual services and are dependent on various factors. 

INITIAL CONSULTATION:  Free / Humanitarian / Donation-based.

EARTH — You’re struggling financially. Consider treating me like your grocery bill, or request assistance if that is too much. In my company you will be heard, not herd.

AIR — Things are tight but you still have a smartphone and various streaming services. Those fees are a common rate per conversation of this sort. I believe their bundle would be fair as a monthly rate for 1-2 conversations per month. 

FIRE — You dine out regularly. Your weekly grocery bill exceeds 400 USD. My insights and inspirations are no less valuable.

WATER — You have a very reliable flow of resources. Join me in contributing to the well-being of many others besides ourselves.  

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